Virtue-Based Restorative Discipline Program
Holy Redeemer School cares about the well-being of our students and creating a positive, caring climate in our school. Through the implementation of Virtue-Based Restorative Discipline (VBRD) our school cultivates virtues that are essential to our Catholic identity. These habits are modeled to provide a strong foundation for fostering our faith relationship with Jesus Christ and others.
The True Meaning of Thanksgiving
By Lynne Lang
Thankfulness is the virtue that changes our interior, and thus our actions, as we recognize the goodness of God in everyday experiences. This can bring depth to the true meaning and purpose of our Thanksgiving Holiday. The interior experience of thankfulness, or gratitude, must always be our response despite consumerism and the temptation to shop in a time of changing norms regarding this holiday. There are many reasons why gratitude is important. According to the Psychology Today website on this topic, gratitude is integral to our health: “Gratitude is what gets poured into the glass to make it half full. Studies show that gratitude not only can be deliberately cultivated but can increase levels of wellbeing and happiness among those who do cultivate it. In addition, grateful thinking—and especially expression of
it to others—is associated with increased levels of energy, optimism, and empathy.”
By Lynne Lang
Yes We’re Working on Virtue, but…how should we handle bullying??
The first step is to listen with detachment to determine whether it is bullying or conflict. Sounds easy, but it is very difficult to imagine someone mistreating our children – our
most prized possessions – without getting emotionally charged. Sometimes we don’t hear the entire truth, so begin by asking questions as you hear the details your child is explaining:
- Did you tell an adult at school?
- Why do you think this is happening?
- Is there any other way to see this?
- What do you think needs to happen next?
- What is the one, best option you can try the next time it happens?
- If you could take back anything you said or did to contribute to the problem what would it be?
- What would you like me to do to help you?
- If you don’t want me to talk to someone at school, then will you?
It is important for young people to seek adult help when problems arise during the day. Encourage your child to report peer mistreatment (many times it is not severe bullying (intense, mean-spirited and repeated over time with an imbalance of power), but rather exclusion, name calling, or a conflict that has potential to be resolved with adult help.
Building resilience in your child begins with prayer. Ask God to help you and your child know how deeply loved you are. Express thankfulness for the dignity and worth that comes from God, and not our peers. Others may attempt to attack our sense of wellbeing and dignity, but it cannot be damaged or destroyed because it comes from God. End by thanking God for providing and protecting us in all our needs.
The Resilience Research Center advises you to tell your child…
- Talk to someone you trust. You are NOT alone. There arepeople who care and will help in whatever way they can.
- Find a group that values your interests and uniqueness.
- Without a doubt, there are other people out there who will likeyou for all the reasons that others may not. Look beyond yourschool and connect with others who share your interests
- Write about the people who are mistreating you. If you feelcomfortable, share what you wrote with someone you trust. Even though it’s not a direct solution, trying to understand from another point of view can sometimes make us feel better.
- Most importantly, be yourself. Those who mistreat others may be insecure and will build up a false sense of power by criticizing others. They lack courage. Do not allow your dignity and worth to be determined by these people.